Any expert will tell you that to succeed in
fixing something you need the right tools.
Without them you fail or make an unhappy and
botched job of it. If you succeed and adapt
something else, then you've found a new tool and
others should now about it. the same goes for
sobriety. Without the right tools, you are
likely to fail or have a hard time trying. Why
waste time trying to reinvent the wheel?
Instead, why not use tools applied successfully
by others to stay sober? You will find many of
them below. Experiment with them and take what
you works for you. If you find others or
variations on the ones below, we would be happy
to include them. Do whatever it takes to stay
sober ! (so long as it doesn't do you or anyone
NO MATTER WHAT !
I will not drink or use no matter what! Sobriety
is my priority over everything else; work,
wages, relationships, emotions, pain, pleasure,
SEPARATE ISSUES !
Sobriety is a separate issue from all else.
Whatever happens it is not a reason to drink or
use. I can deal with or experience it like
others, who don't use it as a reason to get
blasted or stoned.
Self-commitment. I have another chance, it's the
last. I have one life and I deserve to live for
myself and not as an adjunct of a substance. I
will honor myself.
BE FEARLESS, BUT AFRAID !
Live for the sober moment and don't dwell on
the past. Today's a chance you never thought you
Still, do use the past to remind of how bad the
future could be if you drink or use. But just
don't let guilt trips drag you down in the
IMAGINE THERE'S NO HEAVEN,
IMAGINE THERE 'S NO HANGOVER!
Imagine the pride, the well-being of staying
sober. Imagine the future and the endless dreams
that can be realized in sobriety.
HEALTH & STYLE !
Plan some ways to improve your health, diet,
looks. You'll start to feel good about yourself
will live free. I need no bottle, pill, joint or
needle as a crutch. I don't depend anymore on
that shit to get me through my day.
WELL HONESTLY !
real with yourself. Face up to yourself.
Recognize the good things and strap them on your
belt. Don't run away from the bad things,
acknowledge and accept them and see what you can
and want to change.
fooling yourself, you're hooked. It may be
genetic, chemical dependency or psychological,
but you are an addict. You'll always be
addicted. All you can do is not be affected. And
the only way to do that, is not take it.
OPEN UP & SHARE !
holding things in. Get it off your chest; Spit
it out and tell it like it is. You will feel
better and less alone.
CLOSE OUT AND KEEP
List all the places, people and things you used
to drink or use around. Keep away, close them
out, get a new life or they'll drag you back.
Every time you feel an urge,
NAIL IT !
AGAIN AND AGAIN
Thanks to Larry.B for many of these tools.
For more of Larry's Toolkit, click below
HELP & BE HELPED !
others getting sober and you will learn more
about your own sobriety. As the Chinese say,
"one learns by teaching"
"I DID IT MY WAY!"
your own man or woman. Don't worry about what
others think about your sobriety or the methods
If they say its "uncool", "boring", "childish"
or "crazy", ignore it. Its your life and its
your life you're saving. If it works, its good
(but try to avoid things like mass murder,
poisoning the environment or sex in the street)
Realize you have been and are still seriously
ill. You don't get over a major,
life-threatening illness in the blink of an eye
lid. You need to convalesce, pace yourself and
take care of yourself. Don't overstretch
yourself or get frustrated with slow progress.
The physical and psychological healing has its
own agenda, give it the environment to work.
TAKE OUT MORE CREDIT
Credit yourself for your daily sobriety. That in
itself is a great achievement and has made your
day valuable. Give yourself a pat on the back
and reward yourself with a sober treat.
GET WIRED IN !
Get hold of loads of phone numbers, email
addresses, chat groups or live chat to turn to
when you need help. And never be afraid to ask
STEAL TOOLS !
other people's stories and experiences. Pick the
brains of successful long-term sobrietists,
plunder the cupboards of the abstinent and raid
the arsenals of winning recoverers.
FEEL SKINS !
to as many "skin" meetings as possible. True
communication is in the flesh. Real healing and
self-empowerment is achieved through the wisdom
and empathy of collective experience.