This is only a guide to starting your meeting.
There is a great
deal written about SOS and this is only a narrow view of the SOS
the ways to hold a meeting. My purpose in setting this down in a one
page format is
to provide an overview. Hopefully you will walk away with a
understanding of SOS as I see it.
SOS offers an Alternative-
Self-Empowering approach to sobriety.
In SOS I build a safe environment where there is
criticism of each other's choices of
learn to say
- I - Me -
- & refrain from using You - We - You Must -
We Must -You Should -We Should - You Need To -
provide a safe place to share.
How do I go about providing this safe place? I probably should
start with myself.
I realize that I am unique. I am one of a kind.
No one has the same experiences or feelings that I do. If I share
what I have done or would do if I were in that person's shoes and offer
it in a sharing manner, then I probably am doing it the SOS
If I stay focused on the reason I'm here.
Me. My recovery.
Remembering if I try to
else then I'm distracted from my recovery. I do care about
others in the group and because I care, I will offer my
my criticism. I know that for each of us the way to
sobriety is different.
I will learn to accept that another
person's recovery is going to be
different than mine. Part of my learning to fit into
this new world of sobriety is to
help make this meeting as safe as possible. This will make me a
stronger person & add power to my recovery.
Every person in the group should have a
This should be done
first priority. A signal should be decided in advance, to
enable every one to talk. After the signal is given, the person
speaking knows the reason for the signal is to give them a chance to
wind up, condense. If there is time they can continue latter.
It is of great importance that each person has a voice.
After everyone speaks that wants to speak, then the floor can be opened, again using a signal to shorten each
person's time in speaking.
At your meeting you are free to use what works.
that this Group belongs to each of us.
Leaders should rotate.
Non Religious Freedom.
I know that in a recovery group there will be people with differing views on religion.
There will be people with different views on politics. To keep our
focuses on recovery and keep our religious and political views intact,
free from criticism or having members trying to convert each
other to their
religion or politics, it is in the best interest of the group and each of
us that our religious or non religious beliefs be expressed with like minded people outside of meetings.
There will be no promotion of drug use.
Except for medical reasons. Not for getting high reasons. If you
are in recovery for alcohol and had no problem with pot don't start
This is a Abstinence group.
I will repeat: SOS
is a Abstinence group.
Some members don't refer to themselves as an
alcoholic or a drug addict. Each of us have the right to paint a
picture of our self as we choose. The purpose of the group is to
live life clean and sober. The purpose is not to chant in
unison, as we are each unique.
is a leader in his or her own sobriety.
Our philosophy is that
each individual is unique and should therefore find and fashion
his or her own road to sober living and a full life. We have no interest in
member's private beliefs or lifestyles.
All groups are independent
We work together as a voluntary association of free- thought groups.
SOS has no central apparatus, hierarchical
structures or authoritarian leaderships.
There is no hidden agenda.
free to use other support groups.
There is no one way. My using other support groups will not in any
way affect my standing in SOS.
I Will Become the
Captain of My
Ship & Sail
into a New Life.
I am the
captain of my ship & am sailing in my new life.
religious or non- religious beliefs
are never challenged in the group
because they are a private part of my recovery.
With my mind
clear, free of Alcohol/Drugs I will be better equipped to follow my
belief system. I can expand and strengthen my belief system with like
minded people outside of meetings.
Christians have many
Catholics & Baptist may want to worship in
different Churches - Hindu - Hari Krishna - Buddhist - Moslem - Agnostic - Atheist - may want to practice their beliefs with
minded people outside of meetings.
A safe place.
So here in SOS
I build a safe
everyone is encouraged to follow their own belief system.
No One Preaches
Tries to Convert -or- Subvert Another's Belief
we are each Unique.
We Celebrate- & -
Support this Uniqueness.
From this celebration of just how different we are. Strength & Power Grows.
Clean and sober I learn to use the Power
I have within myself to change my life forever.
We are each Unique
As are our Group
Meetings. There is no one way, there is only the way that works for you
or your group. If it isn't working then it is up to each of us to to find the way that works for us or our group. When you find things that work please share
with the group, so we can all benefit.
Accept the Challenge of Living Life Alcohol/Drug Free.
accepted the challenge of living my life Alcohol/drug free.
Duaine Metevia from Dallas
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