expert will tell you that to succeed in fixing something you need the
right tools. Without them you fail or make an unhappy and botched job
of it. If you succeed and adapt something else, then you've found a
new tool and others should now about it. the same goes for sobriety.
Without the right tools, you are likely to fail or have a hard time
trying. Why waste time trying to reinvent the wheel? Instead, why not
use tools applied successfully by others to stay sober? You will find
many of them below. Experiment with them and take what you works for
you. If you find others or variations on the ones below, we would be
happy to include them. Do whatever it takes to stay sober ! (so long
as it doesn't do you or anyone else harm)
MATTER WHAT !
I will not drink or use no matter what! Sobriety is my priority over
everything else; work, wages, relationships, emotions, pain, pleasure,
Sobriety is a separate issue from all else. Whatever happens it is not
a reason to drink or use. I can deal with or experience it like
others, who don't use it as a reason to get blasted or stoned.
Self-commitment. I have another chance, it's the last. I have one life
and I deserve to live for myself and not as an adjunct of a substance.
I will honor myself.
FEARLESS, BUT AFRAID !
Live for the sober moment and don't dwell on the past. Today's a
chance you never thought you had.
Still, do use the past to remind of how bad the future could be if you
drink or use. But just don't let guilt trips drag you down in the
THERE'S NO HEAVEN,
IMAGINE THERE 'S NO HANGOVER!
Imagine the pride, the well-being of staying sober. Imagine the future
and the endless dreams that can be realized in sobriety.
& STYLE !
Plan some ways to improve your health, diet, looks. You'll start to
feel good about yourself again.
I will live free. I
need no bottle, pill, joint or needle as a crutch. I don't depend
anymore on that shit to get me through my day.
Get real with
yourself. Face up to yourself. Recognize the good things and strap them
on your belt. Don't run away from the bad things, acknowledge and accept
them and see what you can and want to change.
& ACCEPT !
yourself, you're hooked. It may be genetic, chemical dependency or
psychological, but you are an addict. You'll always be addicted. All you
can do is not be affected. And the only way to do that, is not take it.
UP & SHARE !
Stop holding things
in. Get it off your chest; Spit it out and tell it like it is. You will
feel better and less alone.
OUT AND KEEP SAFE !
List all the places, people and things you used to drink or use around.
Keep away, close them out, get a new life or they'll drag you back.
time you feel an urge,
NAIL IT !
AGAIN AND AGAIN
to Larry.B for many of these tools.
For more of Larry's Toolkit, click below
& BE HELPED !
Help others getting
sober and you will learn more about your own sobriety. As the Chinese
say, "one learns by teaching"
DID IT MY WAY!"
Be your own man or
woman. Don't worry about what others think about your sobriety or the
methods you use.
If they say its "uncool", "boring",
"childish" or "crazy", ignore it. Its your life and
its your life you're saving. If it works, its good (but try to avoid
things like mass murder, poisoning the environment or sex in the street)
& PERSPECTIVES !
Realize you have been and are still seriously ill. You don't get over a
major, life-threatening illness in the blink of an eye lid. You need to
convalesce, pace yourself and take care of yourself. Don't overstretch
yourself or get frustrated with slow progress. The physical and
psychological healing has its own agenda, give it the environment to
OUT MORE CREDIT !
Credit yourself for your daily sobriety. That in itself is a great
achievement and has made your day valuable. Give yourself a pat on the
back and reward yourself with a sober treat.
WIRED IN !
Get hold of loads of phone numbers, email addresses, chat groups or live
chat to turn to when you need help. And never be afraid to ask for it.
Listen to other people's stories and
experiences. Pick the brains of successful long-term sobrietists,
plunder the cupboards of the abstinent and raid the arsenals of winning
Get to as many
"skin" meetings as possible. True communication is in the
flesh. Real healing and self-empowerment is achieved through the wisdom
and empathy of collective experience.